Stress is subjective - Reality Creation Coaching

This article will detail how to release stress totally and completely and for the rest of your life by learning that there is no such thing as stress. With the exception of traumatic incidents, stress is mostly subjective. If that weren?t true you could point to stress and say ?that is stress? just like you could?can point to a tree and say ?thats a tree? or to a car and say ?thats a car?. Can you show me stress? You cant because its not an objective reality. You might mention what causes you to emotionally and physically react and label that ?stress?. Several phones ringing, someone shouting at you, someone criticizing you, a schedule-planner full of important appointments, the screaming of a baby, but nobody is forcing you to react to any of these things, much less with stress. A screaming baby is just a screaming baby and a schedule-planner is just a schedule-planner. Some people react strongly, some don?t. What you actually mean by ?stress? is an inner resistance and contraction of body muscles, which creates a certain tension. This conditioned response to noise and upheaval can deliberately be reversed. ?

In my experience illness and stress go hand in hand. Scientific research has tried to correlate everything from cancer to alzheimers to stress, because so many of the patients themselves testify to stress being the cause. The reason science has not been able to find conclusive proof for what most people already know, is because most test-study-groups are done with the presupposition that stress is caused by objective external factors. The researchers will then typically test people who have been in difficult external circumstances. However, not all people react the same to circumstances, therefore many of these studies are somewhat skewed.

There is a small percentage of conditions that objectively create tension and psycho-spiritual wounds. A few examples of such conditions would be losing a loved one, being involved in a war, having a car accident, ?being betrayed or cheated on, being violently assaulted, etc. In such instances it will take some time for the wounds to heal and you are not expected to be grinning and happy on the very next day (that would in fact be a sign of suppression/denial of the event). But all of the other daily life cases we call stress can be released in an instant ? the overwhelm of having ?too much to do?, time-pressure, worries about money, concerns about the future, regrets about the past, high expectations from others, public speaking, being criticized, being in a traffic jam, having a messy desk, etc. And you can do so without suppressing your feelings. If you suppress stress rather than release it, you eventually become flat and emotionless. If you release stress, you become calm and free.?

So how to do this? You do it in the very moment your conditioned reaction to external pressures arises. You stop whatever you are doing, and you simply observe and witness your reaction to whatever is happening. In that very second you are no longer the react-er but rather the observer of the conditioned reaction. In that space you have more of a choice of whether to continue reacting or not. In the levels of energy course I have a 30-minute exercise where I deliberately put people into stressful and overwhelming conditions, while coaching them to calm down, reduce reaction and ?become the witness? rather than the one resisting the event. This is such a radical shift from the normal human conditioning that it feels genuinely liberating and makes ones whole life a brand new experience. I tell people to ?become the eye of the cyclone?. Eye cyclone is one of the most aggressive, chaotic and overwhelming storms there is, but in the center of a cyclone, it its very ?eye? there is total peace and stillness. It is important to note that this deliberate reduction of ones reaction is not a suppressing or flattening of the physical and emotional responses. One lets the responses pass through without doing anything with them. So when someone disapproves of you there might be a slight hurt in the solar-plexus for example. You do not try to get rid of this hurt or do anything with it. Neither do you go on a spree of action trying to ?fix it? (that would be reactive and only create more conundrum). Neither do you take pills or eat foods to suppress it. Instead you simply witness it, witness the automatic responses, witness what is going on. The more you witness and become aware of what is happening, the more it reduces and releases over time.?

?Reducing Reaction? is one way to release stress. Another way to do it is by embracing whatever seems to be causing stress, thus becoming bigger than the stress. Whatever you can embrace, you are bigger-than. Instead of projecting a ?no? attitude you begin projecting a ?yes? attitude, as if you could easily take on 10 more errands, 10 more phone calls, 10 more inconveniences. This shift requires a radical change in your definition of life. If you define life as having to cater to your whims and anything that doesn?t being ?extraneous?, you will have difficulty with this. If, on the other hand, you view everything as belonging to life, as happening to you for a good reason, this will be rather easy and stress will be a thing of the past, at least most of the time.?Thus you are able to increase my ?threshold of overwhelm? (the point when I get overwhelmed and begin losing energy and getting emotional) to a fairly high level.?To learn more about this, also consider downloading the audio ?stressfree in 10 Minutes? (available in the?Members-Section).?

In other words, performing in front of a large group of people can be joy, it does not have to be stress. Getting hundreds of customers a day can be joy, it doesnt have to be stress. If you believe ?they expect much of me?, exchange that with the belief ?they just want to have fun?. Cleaning the household can be joy, it does not have to be stress. If you have the belief ?cleaning up is boring?, exchange that with the belief ?cleaning up is zen meditation if done consciously. It will empower me beyond belief?. If you believe that travelling is stressful, exchange that with the belief ?travelling is fascinating because so many new things are seen and learned?. If you believe that a traffic jam is stressful, exchange that with the belief ?traffic jams are a great opportunity to think about some important things?.?

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